A few days after Super Bowl 50’s Lisa Frank colored halftime show message of “Believe in Love” emblazoned across Levi’s Stadium, and a mere 5 days before Valentine’s Day, my thoughts turn toward gratitude. It’s my first year as a mother on Valentine’s Day. February 14th (and sometimes July 6th) is originally a wholly Christian holiday observed by the Anglican Communion, Eastern Orthodox Church, and Lutheran Church in honor of Saint Valentine. Again, in the vein of unlabeled (raceless, genderless, areligious) love, I can get behind a holiday whose express purpose is now to celebrate displays of affection. Some of my favorite memories of the Hallmark holiday are not from dates, boyfriends, my husband or schoolmates. My best memories are from my Dad. He would always delight in picking the perfect card, a cute stuffed animals, or a specific treat for me. Whether it was a school night or a weekend, he would excitedly wake me up and usher me to the kitchen where a surprise would await me next to me breakfast. A small, yearly tradition that I hope to pass on to my son.
The day isn’t about lavish spending (even though about $180,000,000 will be spent) nor is it about flowers (198,000,000 roses cultivated) , it’s a day dedicated to small acts of adoration – platonic and familial included.
Multiple studies, including one that tracks Facebook breakup statuses, have shown that couples are more likely to break up in the weeks before and after Valentine’s Day. Yikes. Other research supports that couples who give more credence to the holiday are less healthy than their counterparts who celebrate “just because” throughout the years. Apparently, the feeling of obligation or forced romance can lead to dysfunction!
So, instead of making this day about love for our partners, let’s give in to some self-love and parental-love retail therapy.
1 Voluspa’s Yuzu Rose Stonecrop 2 Wick Candle
/ 2 Oh Joy! for Target’s Heart LED Neon Light / 3 Carey All Over Hearts Sweater / 4 Dolce & Gabbana Silk Cotton Floral Printed Skirt / 5 Jade by Zoya (Nontoxic and Big 5 Free) / 6 The World Book of Love / 7 High Seas Romper in Red from Winter Water Factory / 8 Piece of My Heart Valentine’s Day Postcard, Set of 10 / 9 Persimmon Ink Blot Medium Cube by Pehr / 10 Red Baby High Tops from H&M
My fiancé and I live in Chelsea, known to many as the art gallery epicenter of New York City. Peppering the sidewalks like haphazard splashes of paint on a Pollock canvas, there are almost 350 concurrent exhibitions at any given time. Some Saturdays, with no plan in mind, we meander the avenues neighboring the Hudson River and walk from 20th street until 25th. One such day in February, 2012 we stumbled upon Petzel Gallery.
Anarchy, animation, trash, charcoal, linen and the world of a deranged evil villain collide in the gallery.
Batman Returns, the show by artist Joyce Pensato ran from January 12 – February 25, 2012. Pensato, is an artist born, raised and currently working in Brooklyn. Her proximity to Gotham is not lost on me. “Batman” is a motif that first appeared in Pensato’s drawings as early as the mid-1970’s. “I was resisting working with the traditional still life — apples and pears and all that crap,” she says. Something clicked when she first sketched the caped crusader. “I just fell in love with Batman. I think it was the ears.
In honor of New York Fashion Week 2013, which so nicely coincides with Valentine’s Day, I bring you (dear reader) a series of red-toned vignettes. Each outfit from a designer’s recent show also represents a style or facet of love, using a series of adjectives ending in ‘ic.’ I admit I used a thesaurus for some of these – knowledge is power. Which type of love and blood-stained hue best represents you?