A few days after Super Bowl 50’s Lisa Frank colored halftime show message of “Believe in Love” emblazoned across Levi’s Stadium, and a mere 5 days before Valentine’s Day, my thoughts turn toward gratitude. It’s my first year as a mother on Valentine’s Day. February 14th (and sometimes July 6th) is originally a wholly Christian holiday observed by the Anglican Communion, Eastern Orthodox Church, and Lutheran Church in honor of Saint Valentine. Again, in the vein of unlabeled (raceless, genderless, areligious) love, I can get behind a holiday whose express purpose is now to celebrate displays of affection. Some of my favorite memories of the Hallmark holiday are not from dates, boyfriends, my husband or schoolmates. My best memories are from my Dad. He would always delight in picking the perfect card, a cute stuffed animals, or a specific treat for me. Whether it was a school night or a weekend, he would excitedly wake me up and usher me to the kitchen where a surprise would await me next to me breakfast. A small, yearly tradition that I hope to pass on to my son.
The day isn’t about lavish spending (even though about $180,000,000 will be spent) nor is it about flowers (198,000,000 roses cultivated) , it’s a day dedicated to small acts of adoration – platonic and familial included.
Multiple studies, including one that tracks Facebook breakup statuses, have shown that couples are more likely to break up in the weeks before and after Valentine’s Day. Yikes. Other research supports that couples who give more credence to the holiday are less healthy than their counterparts who celebrate “just because” throughout the years. Apparently, the feeling of obligation or forced romance can lead to dysfunction!
So, instead of making this day about love for our partners, let’s give in to some self-love and parental-love retail therapy.
1 Voluspa’s Yuzu Rose Stonecrop 2 Wick Candle
/ 2 Oh Joy! for Target’s Heart LED Neon Light / 3 Carey All Over Hearts Sweater / 4 Dolce & Gabbana Silk Cotton Floral Printed Skirt / 5 Jade by Zoya (Nontoxic and Big 5 Free) / 6 The World Book of Love / 7 High Seas Romper in Red from Winter Water Factory / 8 Piece of My Heart Valentine’s Day Postcard, Set of 10 / 9 Persimmon Ink Blot Medium Cube by Pehr / 10 Red Baby High Tops from H&M
I am just about two months postpartum. My nights are still divided into 3 hour segments, broken up by breastfeeding, burping and re-swaddling. The bags under my eyes could now be referred to as luggage. My “fat jeans” and leggings are still the only fabric successfully covering my legs. And, my favorite tops have been hijacked in honor of those allowing for “easy access.” A term which was once sexy and conjured up vignettes of bathroom quickies, now means the ability to feed on demand, anywhere at anytime. Button-downs, wrap shirts, loose sweaters, and nursing bras. In all this, it’s still important for me to feel stylish and put together. My secret? Jewelry.
Baubles, trifles, costume jewelry, vintage, metallics! Who cares? All of my jewelry still fits and provides me with a quick way to feel glamorous in my new routine of flats (or uggs) and pseudo-moo-moos or ponchos. I know my body will recover eventually and for now I’m just happy dressing Josiah well (who has a better, more extensive wardrobe than me and my husband combined.)
Because it’s my birthday this Thursday, and because Valentine’s day is almost upon us, I’m giving you a piece of my collection! Enter to win a bracelet from Victoria Emerson below.
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PINKY: The Lana Pinky Ring in Silver by Sarah Chloe x Goop – initialed “J” for Joss, and purchased a few days after delivery. Show your pinkies some love with this signet ring.
RING FINGER: The Beatriz wedding band and the Ella wedding band in Platinum from Ken & Dana Designs. When I don’t feel like wearing my complete bridal set and my awesome engagement ring, I stack these two bands which each go 3/4 way around and feel slightly vintage. Ken & Dana commissions are handcrafted in NYC, and ensure that each piece is environmentally friendly and socially responsible.
THE MIDDLE FINGER: For the longest digit, I tend to go simple.The 14k gold, 5 blue sapphire stone ring from Lio and Linn is great worn alone or for stacking. I discovered this amazing brand at the Renegade Craft Fair.
INDEX FINGER: Ever since first visiting Catbird year ago, I fell in love with the idea of midi stacking rings. The gold chevron is from Liesel Love, and I cannot remember where the silver knot ring is from! However, you can find similar here.
THUMB: The Sterling Silver Double Bar Ring from Eve’s Addiction is in a modern, minimalist cuff style that adjusts its size to fit almost any finger.
FIRST BRACELET (from wrist): At the base of my wrist, flaring toward my fingers, is the ARCN Pacaya Bracelet from Abacus Row. This is a Limited Edition bracelet created by Christy Natsumi and Abacus Row featuring 14K gold-fill fringe, palladium-plated glass Japanese hex-cut seed beads, and 24k gold-plated glass Japanese seed beads. A total of 12 bracelets were made. 14K gold-fill fringe, palladium-plated glass Japanese hex-cut seed beads, 24k gold-plated glass Japanese seed beads.
THIRD BRACELET: I was never a huge fan of anything overtly branded, and the Tiffany’s “property of” charm bracelets are no exception. I do, however adore many of the famous silversmith’s collections. I wore pieces from The Gatsby Collection, full of Jazz Age Glamour, to my wedding. Less formally, I adore the Atlas collection’s clean lines. On the cuff, linear numerals create a striking and simplified design.
Just for readers of The Walkup, if you feel like treating yourself to some new sparklies, here is 20% off your entire order, from Victoria Emerson, with the coupon code thewalkup20! Coupon expires February 27, 2016.
Flowers die, chocolates get eaten, clothing comes in and out of fashion (and fit), but good jewelry can feel eternal.
It’s been 49 days since my last post. I would apologize for the long drought, but I have a totally valid excuse! In that time I’ve had a baby (birth story to come later). Believe it or not, my newborn is now 1 month and 2 weeks old. Yet, I cannot seem to remember a time before baby! His name is Josiah, and for short we call him Joss. He was named after his late grandmother Jo Ann who was known to everyone as Josie. Joss is curious, alert, patient and generally content. He absolutely adores the sensation of bath time splashing and the comfort of warm water. I used to take roughly two epsom salt baths a week while I was pregnant (my respite from aches), so I wonder if any of that carries post womb?
In celebration of Joss’ huge one month milestone, we took him to Hazel Village’s new Gowanus, Brooklyn workshop which is a short 20 minute walk from our house. Founded by Jane Van Cleef, Hazel Village is like an organic, hipster Build-a-Bear. Van Cleef was inspired to create these wonderful woodland creatures in homage to favorite childhood stories like Brambly Hedge, Uncle Wiggly, and the Little House tales. Her dolls are heirloom quality at a reasonable prices. They also have a retro whimsical affect to them that is ineffable; making them feel like treasured keepsakes from bygone days. As an added bonus, the brand upholds the tenets of fair trade and paid labor. Many of the stuffed animal’s clothing prints are collaborations from other famed children’s shops and printmakers such as Winter Water Factory or Liberty of London. The cute cast of stuffed animals ranges from Reginald Fox to Ella Toad to Phoebe Fawn to Lucas Rabbit and counting!
We chose Jeremy Owl as Joss’ first ever bespoke toy. And we even hand stitched his name on the animal’s chest inside a heart. Jeremy is about 14″ tall, Joss was 19.5″. He is made of gray organic cotton fleece, with natural wing tips and face, green legs and beak. He is stuffed with washable polyfill and his eyes are embroidered with cotton embroidery floss. Jeremy Owl loves to paint portraits of his friends. Since he’s a creature of the forest, he uses smooth pieces of bark or wood instead of paper.
Please pardon mom’s tired eyes, unsupportive nursing bra, and general malaise. Focus on the babe. May Joss play with Jeremy Owl for many years to come and may it be a real HOOT! Get it? Groan. Now back to childcare.